Signed,
Confused and in Love
Your first mistake—among many in my opinion—was expressing your feelings to someone who’s not viable in society. Your man is crippled being locked up behind bars and from the point of view of certain women, he’s vulnerable. In your mind, you can use that to your advantage to get the man you’ve always wanted. Your actions have ‘desperate’ written all over them. From his point of view, you’re being manipulative. He will allow you to hold him down while he’s in jail, but make no mistake about what I am going to say. He will leave you. Effective immediately. And he won’t feel an ounce of guilt or remorse. If he wanted you he would have made a move before he went to prison.
Since you haven’t mentioned how much time he has, I’ll only infer that it was enough to get your courage up to approach him in a romantic way. If you two were friends before he went to jail and that’s the category he kept you in, trust me, that’s exactly where he wanted to keep you. Personally, I don’t believe in women making the first move. Men are hunters by nature and they love giving chase. Women are supposed to be pursued. Chivalry is not dead. That’s what real men enjoy doing.
Your second mistake, which is showcasing your age, is suggesting that you’d photocopy letters to show to the other woman. Never allow ANYONE to have that much power over you. I can’t say whether she’s lying or not about being with your guy but I think that you should fall back, concentrate on school and work (I’m assuming you’re doing both), and wait until he comes from out of prison. I would talk to him and explain that you feel that you two should pump the brakes until he comes home. If what you two share is real, it will be evident beyond the prison walls.
You have your whole life ahead of you. Don’t think that he’s the end all-be all. You will love again. Focus on your future. I wish you well.